Being a classroom teacher, I communicate daily with students, parents, and colleagues. But as I get older, I don’t seek out many new socializing opportunities. I am okay spending more time at home with family and less time filling weekends with social activities. We have a small group of close friends that we see, but outside of this (and our extended family) it is the three of us. In the past, this has worked well for my son. Socializing is exhausting to him…it’s like kickboxing is for most. He needs a lot of down time during the weekend to recover and to prepare for the upcoming week.
Because I’m not craving new social experiences, I’m not the mom that is going to go through the class list and set up 3 playdates for the week. I have tried this in the past, and then I regret the over scheduled week. I feel the desire to cancel plans or go into the playdate expecting a miserable outcome. This summer, we tried a totally different approach. No camps or excessive scheduling. My son and I both loved it. But our almost hermit status will need to come to an end and we are both going to have to brush up on our social skills in order to make it in the outside world. So I begin slowly…
Maybe we could have someone meet us at the school for a play date?
No, thank you.
What about Brendan?
What would be the point? He’s moving to another school.
You could still play with him. You seemed to enjoy him during the year.
No, thank you.
You know that there will be new kids in your class this year, right?
I wonder if we go to the park or the school playground if we might meet any of them?
How about we play with that kid that I met on the server?
Well…that would be nice, but he lives in Texas. So…that’s not happening.
I know…why don’t we go get a cool drink & then come back home and watch a show.
I think to myself, that sounds perfect to me…especially if you were a 45 year old man that already had a life time of playing outside, riding bikes & doing squirt gun fights. I hope that he has some of those childhood experiences that I remember so fondly, but I don’t know that he will. It is a different time. We don’t see kids playing kickball in the street and honestly, he doesn’t seem interested in the neighborhood kids his age.
So as parents…we think…and we brainstorm. We decided that our best bet would be to find kids that have a passion for Mine Craft and try to build relationships that way. I guess it is a bit like dating, right?! You are told to do things that you love and then you will find people that have similar interests as you. So we decided to look for “blind date opportunities” for my 7-year-old. Strictly platonic, but using the same principle.
I got on the internet and started looking for groups that get together and play Mine Craft. I obviously didn’t word my search well, because I came up with a list of meeting places and times…all taking places in bars. Obviously, that won’t work. So we will continue to look for a Crafting group that aren’t adults….which is harder than I expected.
If you have a child that is addicted to Mine Craft…PLEASE let me know! We will be waiting by the computer! 🙂