It has been about a month since we traded the big school for home school; I thought I would provide an update.
First, I want to thank those of you that continue to send encouraging and supportive emails and share comments about your personal stories. Based on the comments that I have received, especially from the recent article entitled Stages of Grief, it is unfortunate to know how many families have struggled with the very same thing.
I know misery is supposed to love company, but I just find it miserable…period!
It is unforgivable that there are SO many children being ignored, belittled, and discarded. At this point, I feel like I need to add a disclaimer that recognizes this is not the situation in every school, every classroom or every student. I happen to know many great teachers that give 110% of themselves to their students; however, there are too many that don’t have the training and understanding required to teach a kid like mine.
Since leaving that school, my son stands taller. He uses more eye contact when he is talking. The hood that used to shield him from the noise and chaos, is only needed on rare occasions.
Since leaving that school, my son smiles and laughs and wants to share with more than just his parents. Don’t get me wrong, he is still reserved, but not in the way that made it seem that he thought his smile, laugh and ideas were unimportant and wouldn’t be noticed anyway.
Since leaving that school, my son reads daily for fun. Without my prompting or bribing or begging! He reads books that are at his reading level and peak his interest. No more being told to reread a book that he has already read because that’s the “high book” for the week.
Since leaving that school, my son is more open about his feelings. He claims his emotions and his right to those emotions in a far more mature way.
Since leaving that school, my son has investigated robotics, animation, curious animals, and space through the Cosmos series. He is doing daily reading, science and math. For the first time, weekdays are being used to expose him to topics and ideas that are interesting and at his intellectual level. No longer do we have to squish that into Saturday and Sunday.
Honestly, I love what my son is doing, learning, becoming now that he spends his days with people who love him and support him. That get him!
No more pretending. No more quietly waiting for the bell to finally ring. No more hiding his light.
Based on comments, many of you are experiencing those same stages of grief that we experienced. Because of that, I wanted to share what we did. We couldn’t just walk away and let them ( his elementary, his teacher, his principal, his counselor, his school district) do this again to other students.
We filed a formal complaint with the Department of Education and the Office of Civil Rights. We were notified that based on our documentation, the OCR felt as though there was enough questions to start an investigation based on possible failures with FAPE and 504 procedures. This process might be long or it could be resolved quickly, but we are glad that the district is going to have to defend its actions, or lack of actions.
So…How is it?
Home schooling in our house, for our family, is hard, tiring, fantastic, rewarding, inspiring, and worth it!
How is it for you?