When you are the parent of a twice-exceptional child, you often feel as though you are playing a game of Jeopardy! There are several “issues” that you balance at once and the difficulties from yesterday, may not be the challenges of today. You have to be on your toes and ready for any “topic” at any time!
As we get closer to school starting, my TBP seems to be seeking control. He is pushing boundaries and is questioning why his opinions are not as valued as the adults at home. We had a nice, easy summer…which we all got used to. However, the change in the weather, darker evenings, and purging of high-water pants all point to the fact that school is almost here. Many kids seem to be excited for a new school year, but mine is not.
The last two weeks, we started discussing the fact that he must talk about other topics that are not Mine Craft related. We started more social coaching prior to a play date or explaining why he can’t always be the winner of a sword fight or board game. We mentioned visiting the school playground and checking out his classroom and he politely answers, “No thank you.” The big kicker has been starting to limit screen time and this is where he pushes back the most.
I know that he is a “slow to transition” type of kid, so we tried talking about school early. But here’s the thing…the ramping up of school talk made matters worse. I want to prepare him, but I think he hears the importance in my voice and he gets more anxious. My sweet TBP acts as if he doesn’t talk about it…the first day of school won’t arrive. I understand this desire to live in denial, because the truth of the matter is that I feel the same way! I am SO concerned that this will be another year of struggles and boredom, that I too try to ignore the start of the school year.
I am an extremely organized person and I haven’t finished shopping for his school supplies! I haven’t gone shopping to purchase one piece of “back to school teacher clothes.” I want to cover my ears and say “I can’t hear you” repeatedly whenever someone mentions that school starts Wednesday! This makes me wonder if maybe these more controlling behaviors aren’t really new. Maybe my nerves are getting the best of me and I’m reacting in a way that I wouldn’t have in easy, breezy July? I know that my son is very perceptive and I know that I must focus on a new beginning instead of the old disasters.
Anyone else nervous about the new school year? Are you seeing ramped up behaviors now that summer is quickly vanishing? This Mama would like to know!