Although I am not a fan of censorship, I do believe it is necessary in order to survive the upcoming holidays! With Thanksgiving and Christmas quickly approaching, I have already imagined things that I don’t want my son to say when family comes to visit or when we are in the middle of a holiday meal.
1. “I got sent home from school” It is always hard to convey the back story of a situation like this to family members, especially to those from older generations. Sensory issues, social anxiety and boredom are long discussions that don’t fit well between, “Please pass the potatoes” and “Love that ham!”
2. “Do you ever play Zombie Apocalypse?” My son loves video games and he plays a lot of different ones; however, he always seems to focus on the most shocking ones when company comes to town. Often, I feel as though I have to explain why we allow the game and about the benefits of video games for a kid like mine.
3. “I don’t do chores.” My son has responsibilities he must do. Is it a long list? No. Does he complete these jobs willingly? Sometimes. Trust me! As a veteran teacher, I know the importance of building personal responsibility, but we are still working on getting through the school week without major stress and anxiety. The weekends are often more relaxed and used for recovery. It is just where we are right now.
4. “When will it just be us?” As much as my son loves the people in his family, he likes things to be normal. Because of this, he can only handle so much time with those outside of our small family of three. This question is often delivered in a way that sounds rude and disrespectful. We are still working on this one because we certainly don’t want anyone to have hurt feelings.
5. “I hate school!” Although this is an ongoing issue in our house, it is an uncomfortable discussion to have with extended family. The gut reaction seems to be to try and help and give suggestions. Everyone means well. It is a complicated issue that will most likely need complicated answers.
6. “Did you hear me..?” Ugh. This is often followed with some announcement of a bodily function that no one needs to, or wants to, hear. This must be a boy thing and we must be smack in the middle of that age that glorifies his ability to make all sorts of sounds. I have been told, this phase goes on for a really long time.
7. “I saw Mama…” This story starter never ends well for me. We can just leave it at that.
I am quite sure that before the turkey is roasted and ready to serve, that this list will grow. Now that you have seen my hopefully-not-discussed-but most-likely-will-be-shared-anyway list, I’m wondering about your list! What topics do you hope to censor this holiday season?