My son came home yesterday and used the B word to describe his day…bullied.
He said that a particular boy in his class has continued to bully him since the beginning of the year. I had heard this boy’s name mentioned, but I thought the problem had gone away. It hasn’t.
It happens in class, in the hallway, and at recess.
Yesterday, he cried as he reluctantly shared the details. He cried the kind of cry that shows feelings of frustration and hopelessness.
I felt my stomach sink as I listened.
A boy like mine, doesn’t need another reason for school to be uncomfortable. We already hear about the crowded halls and the loud lunchroom; this makes the morning leading up to school even worse.
The bad thing is, my TBP is an easy target. Maybe it is the way others can annoy him and consistently he provides the emotional reaction that bullies want. Maybe it is the glasses and the elastic pants and hood that is usually pulled a little bit tighter than most. Maybe it is his fascination with only a few topics and his lack of interest in sports or boy things. Maybe it is his poor motor skills and equally clumsy social skills.
Most likely, it is a combination of all these things…and more.
In the not so far off past, my son would physically lash out at anyone he felt had done him wrong. He knows that isn’t the “right” response, but he wants to do something that will make it stop.
He tells the adults and he feels that they dismiss him.
He tells his teacher, but she doesn’t see the tripping or pushing or leaning into my son because it’s just as she walks to the other side of the room.
He tells the lunchroom lady, but she doesn’t witness it and the other boy denies his acts of aggression.
Tonight, I emailed the school. At first, he didn’t want me to but when I explained the importance of asking for help, he agreed. I wait to hear their response and their plan to make it stop.
I don’t want my son to turn around in frustration and hit a kid that has been pushing his buttons; however, I am not sure how much longer he will tolerate the daily punishment.
How long would I take daily punishment? Not long.
What do you do if your child says he is bullied?