I had another bad parenting moment.
I wanted my son to stop playing Mine Craft and to do something else…anything else!
We had started a daily schedule that included lunch at the same time of day, academics, chores, and free time scattered throughout the day. My son was pushing back, especially when I told him that we were doing this to begin preparing for school.
He would need to adjust to eating lunch at a certain time instead of eating when it was convenient.
He needed to go through his computer withdrawals before the first day.
He should practice stopping a desired activity so that he will do the required, less-desirable activity.
As I write these things, it seems a bit sad; however, these are the facts for a child that goes to a big school with twenty or more kids in their class. You are one of many…you are not the one.
Sad maybe, but this is his reality…at least for now.
So in a moment of frustration I made a comment about Mine Craft that maybe I shouldn’t have…
“You need to stop that game…it is a ridiculous time sucker.”
As you can probably imagine, he took issue with this statement.
First…”It is not just a game! This is where I feel as though I gain respect from other players.”
Second…”How could you call Mine Craft ridiculous?! I don’t call your work ridiculous!”
Third…”How is this game any different from your phone or the TV?”
Ouch! He had a point with that one!
I tried to back pedal a little and then I realized…I was sticking with my original statement. Maybe ridiculous was a bit harsh, but the truth of the matter is that Mine Craft IS a game. It isn’t his job (he claims that it is) and it also isn’t volunteer work (although he made a strong argument for the fact that he does help others when they need it most) and it IS a HUGE time sucker!
I apologized, which I seem to be doing a lot these days, and explained my concerns. I explained to him that we needed to prepare a bit for school. I wouldn’t be doing my job as a parent if I let him do whatever he wanted and then dropped him off to school on the first day without any preparation. It would be a set up and I wanted him to have the biggest chance to be successful.
He listened and didn’t say much about this whole schedule. We kept at the schedule and it seemed to get a bit better. I am hoping that this training does help him for returning to school.
What do you do with your kids to prepare them for the return to school. How do you get them ready to be one of many?