I don’t believe that anyone is looking to hear my justification of why I bought my son an iPad; however, I feel the need to explain myself. When someone asks what he got, I announce the gift and then go right into my “but we wanted our iPad back and it is a gift that he won’t outgrow” reasoning without even taking a breath. The truth is, sacrifices were made and we traded in old iPhones that gave us a nice bit of credit (did you know about this?), so the gift wasn’t as extravagant as it would seem. There I go with the excuses again!
My son is an only child (which I also feel that I have to defend sometimes) and whether it is good or bad, he is very connected to his technology. Instead of playing outside with his sibling, he is writing a story on the iPad. Instead of bugging a sister in the backseat, he is watching a Netflix movie on car rides. Instead of screaming and fighting about who took what out of his room, mine is looking up Mine Craft parodies and tutorials on YouTube.
Don’t get me wrong, he does other things too. He plays on his own, colors on his own and builds Lego creations on his own! But sometimes he gets tired of it. I don’t blame him. Maybe I feel guilty that I get tired and don’t always want to build, draw or play and so that iPad is a gift. Not just a gift for him…but for me too!
I told my almost 89-year-old grandma that I got my son an iPad and her response was surprising. She told me that she was proud of us for knowing what he needed. She said that she would be sorry if we didn’t get him things like computers or ipads that helped him understand his talent and passion. She told me that these help him more than any toy could. I know that she is right…but I still explain myself. Be honest…haven’t you ever bought a gift that you defended?
Two days later…
The boy got his gift and he loved it. He was surprised and very appreciative.
I knew that we would have to continue to closely monitor his usage. What I didn’t know, was that he knew how to go to iTunes on his own and purchase games. Thank goodness that his account is connected to an iTunes card instead of a credit card! I don’t think that he fully understands that the card represents “real money” and that it will run out. This is certainly his new currency and that information could be helpful to me as a parent!
His purchasing on-line, reminds me a bit of my first experiences with a credit card in college. It took me a long time to realize that credit cards were real money too! I suppose that it is a good thing that my 8-year-old is learning this lesson now, before he has the possibility to destroy his credit history!
See…I knew this iPad would teach him a lot!