Okay Readers…I am requesting feedback on two issues that are currently discussed at our house…Boredom and Bathrooms! Let me explain…
Ever since our TBP was young, he despised being bored! Riding in the car or waiting at a restaurant were both scenerios where we could have an anxious and impatient little boy! In an attempt to have more enjoyable car rides, we made sure that there were things in the car to entertain our young tater. Even with our best planning, sometimes there were glitches. When the desired entertainment was accidently dropped to the floor of the car, our peaceful car ride was quickly transformed into a tiny, confined space of torture…for us. If we were lucky, there was something within reach or we were close to our destination. Most of the time, we were not so lucky and by the time we arrived at the destination, our nerves were shot! For longer trips, it became a “Driving Miss Daisy Scenerio” where one of us drove and the other was the “wing man” who was responsible for helping with snacks, DVDs, or toys. It was easy to feel a bit like a captive when I was trapped in the back seat, but it did allow for a more quiet ride… so the pay off seemed worth it.
As our TBP grew, we figured out what to stock the car with and this was successful on most days. We brought extra car items, a lunchpail full of snacks, had a DVD player installed (which we play much more frequently than our original “only for long trips” purpose), and a hand-held video game. On the most challenging days, nothing will be sufficient. When this happens, there are times when I can’t help but move into the “when I was little” lecture. “Do you know what your Auntie and I did when we were bored in the car? We looked out the window!” As you can imagine, this is not well-received on the hard days.
As I learn more about the twice-exceptional child, it seems that boredom is a major issue. This feeling of boredom is extremely uncomfortable to 2e children. This can often create issues at school since many times they are bored for much of the day when the curriculum is not intellectually challenging. Dr. Curtis (Therapist #3) talked with us about the importance of him learning “to be bored” and that this was a skill that he would need to develop. So here it goes readers…What do you do when you hear those infamous words…”I’m bored” and how are you teaching your child to tolerate some level of boredom? Did we create a bigger problem by allowing distractions in the car? Doesn’t everyone do that?
Now for the bathroom issue…
We have a very tall and older looking 6 years old boy. We have always taken him into the women’s restroom with us when there isn’t a family restroom available(which I believe should be required in every store and restaurant). Today, I took my son into the women’s restroom and got the “look” from a shopper. She seemed surprised to see my son with me in the bathroom. If it is a single occupancy restroom, the men’s room is fine, but should I be comfortable sending my son in a men’s restroom where I can’t go? At this point, my TBP doesn’t want to go into the men’s room so it isn’t our fight, but the “look” today made me question my typical response. So fellow parents…Where do you stand (or sit :))? Is it Men’s room or Women’s room? Does it matter to you as a shopper or a parent with a child?
Boredom and Bathrooms…These are the types of issues that I wake up thinking about now?!