How do you get rid of the anger? How do you work past negative feelings and move on?
After an incredibly long and emotional adoption journey, we were lucky that the judge ruled with us and that we could call my TBP ours.
It was eight months of complete day by day living until finally that glorious and unforgettable day. When it was all over, I had a lot of unresolved pain and emotions. It took a long time to recover.
In some ways, I feel like I have to do that again.
Although homeschooling was not my first pick, it has brought more harmony to our home. Because of that, I am relieved and should be happy.
The problem is that I know that what happened to my son is wrong and I know that if I don’t do something, it will happen to other families and children.
I want them to say that they didn’t provide him the education that was within his rights.
I want them to say that they were ill-prepared to handle a child so bright and yet, so immature.
I want them to say that they knew that they pushed us into homeschooling.
I want them to say that they knew that they were being uncooperative, vindictive, and unprofessional.
I want them to say that they were wrong and that they are sorry.
I don’t know if I will ever hear any of these words. I can’t make them say those things. Because of this, I do what writers do when certain thoughts and experiences take over the rest of their mind and energy…I write.
After the adoption was finalized, I wrote letters to all the key players that drained my energy. I didn’t send them. I didn’t really have to.
It helped and I think it will help this time too.
What do you do when you are recovering from a painful situation? Do you write? Do you talk? My inquiring mind wants to know!