We had a wonderful holiday season at our house. We tried to balance excitement with a fair dose of recovery time. I believe that this conscious attempt at balance, is the reason it was easier to return to school after vacation. Because we talked about the “New Year”, there was some confusion and apparently my TBP expected to meet his third grade teacher after break. I explained that students had the luxury of two beginnings…one in September and one in January.
Along with many of you, I reflected on goals and changes that I wanted to make in my life. My reflection led to me thinking of ways that I could coach my son to think about his own goals. These discussions turned into mostly me talking AT him instead of WITH him. Desperate to get me to stop, he answered with mostly shrugging shoulders and “I don’t know.”
This made me wonder….
How do I teach my son to set goals?
Isn’t it important for him to be reflective?
Can I help him to be self-motivated in order to achieve those goals?
Is it too much to expect from him now? If so, when do I start?
I know from being a teacher (and a parent) that I can never underestimate the power of modeling. I find myself talking outloud while problem-solving and hoping that my son sees this practice done by the adults around him. We have ongoing discussions (that can border on lectures) about responsibility and trying our best. He doesn’t yet understand the importance of overcoming challenges and developing a work ethic that will allow for success.
When I picked my TBP up from school, I saw his writing assignment that was about resolutions. Perfect timing!
We are learning about New Year’s resolutions. I have decided to make a few.
First, I will listen to the teacher. Second, I will play kind at recess. Third, I will be kind everyday.
Do you have any resoluions? I would love to hear about them.
If you have followed my blog, you know that these were not as obvious as you might think. The fact that he knows that these practices are important…priceless!