As many of you know, it is a bit crazy at our house these days. We are still searching for a new nanny (topic for another post soon), we got a new puppy, and our sweet son turned 7 years old! All of this going on at once, has been challenging! We can’t escape the fact that our TBP likes things a certain way. He likes an orderly house with a predictable routine. He likes small amounts of chaos, followed by plenty of “recovery time.” Come to think of it…we are all a little like this in our family.
Puppy…we are in love with our new addition! She is beautiful, smart and a nice balance of crazy and calm (I still strive for the crazy/calm balance thing). People expect that our son would have fallen in love with this sweet new thing. I guess that you could say that he has…almost. Having sensory issues and a puppy that barks, pounces, runs too quickly at times, and has accidents in the house are all offensive to him. He also has a deep loyalty to our 13 yrs old terrier and doesn’t like it when others give the puppy too many compliments for fear that it will hurt Stella’s feelings. Don’t get me wrong…things are progressing. It just takes those of us that are slower to transition, a bit longer.
Party…I had previously posted (Real party) that we were trying a new strategy with our son’s birthday party this year. I am happy to report, that the smaller party was a huge success! Our TBP was more engaged, talkative, and happy than other party situations! We had 6 adults (including us) and 2 children (including the Birthday Boy). Our son wanted pizza and a Mine Craft cake.Each boy wore the Mine Craft shirts that we ordered and they played the game happily side by side.
He knew the guests that he wanted, the food that should be served, the decorations that would be displayed, and the design of the cake.
He was the “crafter” behind the Mine Craft party. From now on, I need to trust my son when he describes the type of party that he wants ( within reason of course) and listen.
Presents…I am moved by the generosity of our friends and family, but sometimes so many new things (all at the same time) can be overwhelming.
As I mentioned earlier, we like orderly; however, orderly doesn’t match the description of my son’s playroom. I tried to “downsize” the current toy & Lego inventory to make room for the new and this didn’t go over well. I explained that even stores have clearance sales. Again, I was unsuccessful. So I tried a different strategy…showing him a commercial for an episode of Hoarders. Extreme? Maybe…but it did seem to get him thinking about his hoard vs his preference for a clean and organized environment. I was able to get a few things in the donation bag. Many toys & games didn’t make it for what he considered valid reasons. “Why should I have to get rid of my things when they spent time and money getting it for me?” “Won’t –feel bad if we give their gift away?” “Don’t you want to remember me playing with this toy as a little boy?” That last one was a cheap shot, but effective. I have been told by some friends, that my mistake was trying to have him involved in the thinning out process. My girlfriends say that the discreet one-thing-in-the-bag-at-a-time approach is the way to go. Maybe when he is older, he will voluntarily hand over the Spiderman costume that comes up to his knees. At this point, he can’t.
From us, he received a Flip video camera so that he can write and record his own Mine Craft tutorials to upload on You Tube.
There is a lot for us to celebrate. First, Summer (the puppy) is adjusting and so is our TBP. Second, the slimmed-down style of party, brought larger amounts of joy and happiness. Finally, our son loved his gifts and we were able to decrease his inventory enough that he had room to play with them. We feel very lucky and blessed!